Finding Inner Strength (when you need it most)
In my career I have worked with more vulnerable families than I can count. I have worked with people that desperately want to keep their children in the family home and would do anything to make that happen, and others, who no matter what support we offered were just not in a place where they could beat their demons. One lady that always sticks in my mind is a single mother with 10 children. She fled a violent relationship and found herself completely alone with her children. I spent months supporting her and she ended up coming out the other side. When the support ended I gave her a card with a few strategies on that we had worked through during the intervention, it was a little reminder of how strong she was and how far she had come.
I bumped into this lady a couple of months ago and she told me how even though she hadn’t needed support for over five years now, she still had my card on the fridge in her house! This got me thinking, if I had helped her, why not share these strategies with others, so here goes!
1. You only need to focus on today.
No matter what life is throwing at you, you only need to fight the battles of today. The past has gone, you can’t change that; and the future is not here yet.
Accept that it’s not what has happened/is happening today that is holding you back, it is something that happened yesterday or the fear and dread of what tomorrow might bring, but probably won’t.
By focussing on today, you can pour all of your energy into what you need to achieve, today ONLY. You can deal with tomorrow when tomorrow comes.
2. You only need to take one step at a time.
It really only takes a small step every day to ensure that over time you travel a long distance.
People don’t suddenly heal and start living their ideal life overnight – the steps that they take each day play a massive role in creating the life they want.
You can choose to develop small steps that you achieve daily that take you to where you want to be eventually. The only constant in life is change, so you can choose to change today and make steps towards being happy or you can choose to stand still, never moving out of the situation that is making you unhappy. You may not be able to change your past, but you CAN change your future.
One day when you look back you will see that it has all it all added up to something worthwhile.
3. It is OK NOT to be OK all of the time.
Life is hard, some days you will feel ok, some days you won’t. And that is ok!
Sometimes NOT being OK is all we can manage. This feeling is normal. This emotion is human. And accepting this can feel like a small weight lifted.
Whatever tough times you are going through, sometimes it’s just NOT OK right now. And that, again, is more than OK.
Those who success are those who lay a firm foundation with the bricks life has thrown at them. Don’t be afraid to fall apart for a little while, because when it happens, the situation will open an opportunity for you to grow and rebuild yourself into the brilliant human being you are capable of being, one brick at a time.
I hope this helps